There are lots of times in treating couples where cheating has damaged the relationship. If there was an issue and it was discovered, my first reaction is to work through the behavior, coming from a feeling of wanting to have a deep understanding of why.

Cheating can happen for many reasons, none of it making it okay, but understanding why can help the couple discover where the disconnection started and might lead to repairing the relationship. That is not what I am referring to in this message today.

I am talking about the other type of cheater. The manipulative, game player who cheats chronically and does it repeatedly with no remorse or care about the consequences.