Do you strive for a goal that is beyond your reach? Do you hold an idealized vision that is impossible to actualize? Are you setting yourself up for failure and shame when you can’t achieve the unachievable? Understanding what drives perfectionism is the first step toward releasing this self-created anchor that keeps us stuck.
The Burden of Shame and Fear
Shame and fear are often the hidden drivers of perfectionism. We believe that if we can fashion a perfectly polished personality or achieve some far-flung goal, then no one can sting us with ridicule or criticism. If we can flash our intelligence, perfect our humor, or showcase our beauty, then we’ll win respect and approval.
