Robert Taibbi encourages readers to consider the real reason your relationship is in trouble.

Ask Carly why she and Matt recently divorced, and she’ll tell you that she found out that he was having an affair. She’ll underscore that this was not the first time. It makes sense that Carly would say this. This is her wound; the cause in her mind of their demise as a couple, and it’s very real. While Carly may naturally decide to use this as her quick one-liner explanation to friends and family when they ask why her relationship ended, hopefully, the story she eventually tells herself is a bit more complex.