Dr. Carol Morgan discusses feelings of resentment and ways to stop it from killing your marriage.
When two people meet and decide to pursue a romantic relationship with each other, they always start with high hopes. They are very happy and look at the other person through rose-colored glasses.
But as most of us know, that loving feeling doesn’t always last forever. It does for some couples, but for many, they find their relationships deteriorating through the years for a variety of reasons.
As the relationship slowly declines, what creeps in?
Resentment.
Resentment in marriage can act as a poison that can kill the love – if you let it.
But first, let’s define resentment so we can see what it really is.
Resentment is hurt, disappointment, anger, or any other negative emotion that persists over a period of time. It usually doesn’t go away on its own – instead, it accumulates and grows bigger.
As this resentment continues, the people in the relationship find it more difficult to express love and empathy to one another. The reason for this is because of the unheard and neglected pain they are carrying around.
Because of this, resentment is the most toxic emotion of all in any relationship, especially marriage.