Romance is the language of love, a great ego booster which is ideally expressed in a marriage relationship. Touch, words of affection, and shared moments create an emotional intimacy that sets in motion chemical reactions in the brain. A rise of dopamine and norepinephrine brings a blush to the cheeks and a euphoric excitement in the mind.
Unfortunately, in most marriages, romance quickly dies away within a few months.
Afterward, couples begin to take each other for granted.
It may come as a surprise to many that though there are various causes for lack of self-esteem, studies reveal that the majority of women who come for counseling attribute it to the lack of romantic love in marriage.
Romantic love? I can see the masculine hackles rising; not that Mills & Boon stuff which fairy tales are made of.
At best, romance is a temporary preoccupation during courtship or the honeymoon.
Then the marriage settles down to what it actually is – a blatant business arrangement between breadwinner and homemaker, with the exchange of sexual privileges. No wonder then that just as soon as they are economically stable, the number of women opting out of an unfulfilling union and preferring to go it alone is increasing.
