The world of political correctness has been increasingly infiltrating human thinking to a point where even when we’re at home with our love partners, we think far more about what is the right thing to do or say rather than freely expressing how we truly feel. This becomes an obstacle in our quest to reach a truthful meeting of the minds. We end up portraying an edited persona that can communicate maturely and amicably with our partner’s corresponding edited persona. Sooner or later, this becomes taxing and what once was effortless becomes effort and with it comes doubt. I believe that doubt begins to erode the certainty of love in many relationships due to lack of awareness, not to lack of love.

This starts simply by us being human and, therefore, curious about certain thoughts and feelings as early as the first few months in a relationship. However, day to day trivial questions and thoughts are ignored because there’s a stigma attached to being curious. It’s seen as an admission that there is a serious issue when, in reality, many questions are nothing more than stepping stones to self awareness, clearer understanding and, ultimately, a more fulfilling love.

My journey started from a long and life changing personal experience that opened my eyes to the real meaning of love and who it should free us to be. After years of research that included many collaborations, giving seminars and workshops, and writing a book, I decided to open Compass4Couples and I wanted it to be a gym, not a hospital. Our visitors are healthy, curious and full of hope.

Along with my colleagues at Compass, we would like to make the wealth of wonderful relationship awareness out there available to all from as early as possible. We look forward to hearing from all you curious lovers out there… Why does pleasure morph into management in the majority of relationships? Why do most of us censor and edit our true thoughts with our partners more than we do with our friends? What damage is this doing to us and to our children? Can we drastically increase the longevity of love in long-term relationships? Can we make the majority of children witness loving parents? This book explores the nature of relationships from their inception, and offers radical methods for regularly and honestly assessing the true levels of love and commitment. Love is the only reason why people should get together, stay together and, far more importantly, have children together. It is time for us to celebrate our ability to give and receive love.