I went to Hong Kong with a trip with my friends and we had an argument on text whilst I was there. She broke up with me through text. I officically had my first serious break up when I was 19. I was left rock bottom for next year or so. That was how I chanced upon the book ‘The Game’ and got obesssed in social skills and eventually, psychology. For the typical Asian kid, you’ll considered your chances with women as an area of life that is left purely to luck and fate. However, understanding that fundamentally you can change your behaviour, hence your results in your dating and relationship life fueled me on a journey. I spent the next year Googling tactics, downloading eBooks, flipping through one dating theory after another, trying out ‘negs’ and all sorts of techniques. You ever saw that hand shake and spin ‘opener’? Yes, I did that as well.

That didn’t all work. Things only starting piecing together when I started expressing myself authentically. I figured, if I really needed all those lines and trickery, I must be one hell of an unconfident individual. So gradually, I improved. One thing lead to another, I took an interest in psychology, entrepreneurship and blogging. Through the years, I changed my philosophy from pick up literature to practical and psychologically researched strategies. Today, I found a model that’s emotionally sustainble. One that feels good, and is ethical and effective. I also figured that a lot of it is actually getting good at your own emotions: emotional intelligence. Lines, techniques are all superficial details. It has always been about becoming a more comfortable with our sexuality and nothing else.

Initially, my goals were to get into stocks and finance, you know, the typical Asian route. Hence, I signed up for an accounting and finance degree. However, I was disinterested and preferred reading up on psychology and entrepreneurship. I found myself reading up on behavioural change and psychology and took an immense interest in it. I also spent a lot of time collating ideas, started a blog documenting the process. That led to a couple of in person clients in Singapore. I started a couple of websites and had the pleasure of coaching University students, working professionals in Singapore. You can take a look at some of my student’s testimonials.