When there is a disconnect between a partner’s actions and words, they avoid spending one-on-one time, resist talking about issues, and frequently cancel plans, but insist they are completely “in love.”  A continuous discrepancy between a partner’s actions and words is a problem. Understanding the roots of the inconsistency may help a person decide what to do. Read on to examine whether or not your partner is telling you how he really feels.

Insecurity, Control & Emotional Unavailability

First, a deeply insecure partner may want to keep a person “on the line” for security purposes. Afraid of being alone, he or she may lack true feelings but convince the person otherwise. By keeping the person in the relationship, the partner prevents him or her from moving on. This ensures the partner will be the first to find another, which protects his or her fragile ego.