If you listen carefully, people will tell you who they are and how they think in a matter of minutes. They cannot wait to confide in you their world views, not-so-secret secrets, and a top ten list of their weekly activities. They unconsciously hope your conflicts are worse than theirs, or that their marriage is better than yours is. These speaking patterns are automatic and can be detrimental to your life vision. However, by speaking consciously, you can immediately alter what you say to yourself and others. Your thoughts, feelings, actions and words will be consistent with your vision.
I play softball on a regular basis and until recently, played in three leagues at a time. One of my teams was very talented, but we always found a way to lose. I began to notice how negative everyone on the team was. They would say things like:
