Therapists don’t often share their own life stories. Our focus is on you, not us. But sometimes what we’ve learned from our personal challenges can inspire our clients. So here…...

Are you and your partner thinking about opening up your relationship to additional sexual partners? Here are some considerations that may help you get ready for an open, gay relationship.…...

If you grew up in a judgemental family or around people who were unaccepting, then you may have internalized homophobia. Below, Adam Blum shares a list of 30 ways to…...

Contributing writer, Adam Blum, shares insightful ways in which gay men can recover from affairs. As Blum says, “recovery is possible, and in fact, most gay couples do survive an…...

Gay men are more lonely than straight men. It pains me to write that. Gay men need positive inspiration and role models, not more negative statements. However, I am highlighting this fact…...

A quick way to improve one’s well-being is to practice disengaging from one’s Inner Critic. Here are the secrets to ditching the gay inner critic. What is the Purpose of…...

I remember back in the 1990s, when I was in graduate school studying to become a psychotherapist, it seemed like every professor ended up talking about “self-care.” I would think,…...

“What is hot?” Jack Morin, Ph.D, wrote the The Erotic Mind* back in 1995 and essentially answered that question. Eighteen years later, the book is still in print. Dr. Morin…...

As a couples counselor working with gay men, I am often asked my opinion on monogamy and open gay relationships. So, what works for men in long-term relationships? Hint: It…...

Last week, Barry and I found ourselves at 10 pm sitting at a special reserved table at The Stud, the first gay bar in San Francisco. First of all, there…...