In a long-term relationship, it’s likely that one of you will want sex more frequently than the other. This can create uncomfortable conflicts. Here are some ideas that can help you…...

Is your relationship feeling stale? Or stressed? For most of us, the answer to these questions is a big “yes!” It’s hard to keep a feeling of aliveness in ourselves and in…...

Here’s one thing I’ve noticed in my work as an LGBTQ affirming psychotherapist. You are really mean. OK, it’s not just you. Most people are really mean to themselves. If…...

Adam Blum discusses fear and its role in all the little fights in a relationship, particularly in gay marriages. He also offers advice for how to reduce those little arguments…...

You are dating a five-year-old. Yes, that man across the dinner table from you–the one with beard stubble and crow’s–feet is actually a five-year-old boy. So are you. All of…...

The following practices, developed from years as an LGBTQ therapist working with LGBTQ couples, may help you deepen your relationship. They may sound simple, but they have been proven to…...

We can spend years with our partner, enjoying their company, building a life together, and having good sex, without being emotionally intimate. That can work for a while — sometimes even…...

Adam Blum discusses what it means for gay men to be vulnerable in their relationships, particularly the benefits of being “needy” – in a healthy way. Two men loving each…...

Adam Blum offers advice to keep your LGBTQ relationship strong past the honeymoon phase. He recommends ways for you to feed your relationship to keep it nourished and strong.  The…...

When you fight with your partner it can feel like they are the enemy.  LGBTQ couples can get momentarily trapped in a belief that the person they love is evil,…...