To love without conditions or requirements is often spoken about when it comes to evolved or adult relationships. There are also other needs that can come into this, such as acceptance, approval, appreciation, respect, attention, and many others.

To be loved by another and to have all one’s needs met in a way that is unconditional, sounds wonderful. The question is, is this really possible or is it an illusion?

The Beginning

I believe that in order to understand this better, it is important to take a deeper look at childhood development. Because it is here that one first requires unconditional love. This is typically sought from the primary caregiver and is vital for a child’s development.

And in an ideal world, a child would receive unconditional love from the caregiver. But the reality is that this doesn’t always happen. One of the consequences of this is that the child is likely to end up emotionally and mentally undeveloped.