We blame a lot of the problems in our relationships on our differences, the things that separate us. But maybe we’re not as different as we originally thought in terms of what we most want in our most intimate relationship.

The results of The Normal Bar, one of the most extensive surveys on relationships ever completed, showed that the one thing both men and women who were unhappy in their relationships wanted more of, that they weren’t currently getting, was communication.

Not more sex. Not more affection. Not more financial stability.

More than anything else, they wanted their partners to talk more and listen more intently to them.