This short analysis is written to clear up the confusion between Agentic or Overt Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and what has been termed the “Pro-Social or Communal Type” of Narcissism among females. Why? Simply because the stereotypical narcissist is nearly always portrayed as a seductive, manipulative, semi-sociopathic male. However, the scientific literature has documented an increasing volume of men seeking help because of female narcissistic abuse. Their spouse or life partner has abused them emotionally. Attempts to confront their partner always makes life miserable for them.

Narcissism is a spectrum disorder, ranging from the Miranda Priestly character, brilliantly portrayed by Meryl Streep in the film, The Devil Wears Prada. This is an example of full-blown NPD. She tells her young protégé. “Everyone wants to be us.” Her arrogance, condescendence, mind games, and emotional abuse is a source of pride for overt, agentic narcissists. In contrast, communal types possess chronic insecurity regarding their abilities and thus shun the public spotlight for fear of looking bad, but are nevertheless equally abusive to their designated spouse, life partner, or co-workers she cannot control.