Let’s talk about one of the biggest struggles that nobody wants to talk about during divorce: Grief.

Grief is a tricky thing. When we are conditioned to expect it, as is the case during the death of a loved one, we know that we must be patient. We go through the stages, and the idea is that one day, our mourning will be done, and we’ll be able to move on.

So, why do we forget to do this during a divorce? Do we think that we aren’t allowed to, because technically, nobody died?

Not allowing yourself to grieve during divorce is not giving yourself the chance to heal. And not giving yourself the chance to heal means not giving yourself the chance to move on with your life. Robbing ourselves of this grieving process is one of the reasons why, even years after the divorce, we still feel incomplete, still feel like crap, and still feel like our heart is broken.

Let’s change that. Because I know that you deserve a hell of a lot better than still feeling stuck in the past, unable to heal your heart. Not on my watch!