My client, who I’ll refer to as Rachel worshiped the ground he walked upon when she met her husband (those are her words). They met in church at the age of seventeen and nineteen. She was a beautiful young woman. She became a good wife and mother. But she was also dynamic, energetic, and happy, gaining energy from being around other people.

Women marry men hoping that the man will change. Men marry women hoping the woman will not change. Inevitably, they both end up disappointed. — Albert Einstein

But, believe it or not, she didn’t have a strong sense of self and didn’t trust her own instincts…since those instincts felt rebellious and a little dangerous. Rachel knew – even twenty years ago – that if she married the man who is now her husband, he would prevent her from getting into too much trouble. He was a good man, a handsome man, a Christian man, and also a controlling man.