I’m sure you have heard plenty of people who have said, “Relationships are hard!” Sadly, that’s what most people think. Why? Because they’ve never been given the tools to make relationships easy.

I teach and write about relationships for a living, and when people say this to me, I respond with this:

Relationships aren’t hard. It’s the people in the relationships that make them hard.

See the difference? In the first scenario, it implies that all relationships are inherently flawed, and so we have to figure out how to fix that.

In the second scenario, it is shining light on the fact that people are imperfect. We all have our insecurities, and we carry those into our relationships. While this is an inevitable fact of life, it doesn’t mean that we can’t learn to overcome them and have a very happy relationship.

Maybe you know happy couples and wonder, “What do they do that we don’t do?” Or maybe you don’t even know any happy couples! Either way, I’m sure at some point you have wondered what the secret to relationship success is.

I’m here to tell you, it’s not that difficult. As you will see from the rest of this article, these are pretty simple things that happy couples do every day. All it takes is some conscious thought and a desire to be happy – and more importantly – make your partner happy.