It is often said that in the most successful relationships, partners bring out the best in each other. Sometimes, though, in the midst of the stresses of daily life, we can forget just who this best version of our partners and ourselves is. To rekindle feelings of love and esteem that might get lost in the everydayness of your life together, try this bonding exercise which consists of six steps you can take now. (While this exercise is directed at people in relationships, others can adapt it; instead of doing it with a romantic partner, try it with a close friend or family member.)

1. Find the time.

Find some time in which you and your partner can be alone in a quiet, relaxed environment where you can do this exercise in the best possible state of mind. Don’t do this soon after a fight. If you’ve been fighting, it’ll be too difficult to see the forest for the trees; you’ll see the fight as indicative of your entire relationship, clouding your thoughts about your partner.