One of the basic tenets of Inner Bonding is that our feelings are our inner guidance system. Our wounded feelings and our deeper, existential core painful feelings both send us important messages about ourselves.
Those wounded feelings such as anxiety, depression, fear, guilt, shame, anger, aloneness, emptiness, and jealousy – the feelings that we cause with our false beliefs and resulting behavior – inform us that we are being unloving to ourselves, that we are abandoning ourselves in some way.
Our deeper, existential core painful feelings – the feelings that are caused by others and events – are also informing us. Our loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, grief, helplessness over others, outrage, and fear of real and present danger offer us an enormous amount of information about what is happening externally.