Divorce is tough, especially when you’re a mom. You already have a million things to worry about—taking care of the kids, professional obligations, making sure the house doesn’t look like a nuclear fall-out, worrying about college tuition, retirement, aging parents—the list goes on.

So, when you mix those life events with the heartbreak, stress, and loss of confidence that many experience during divorce, it can all seem like a terrible nightmare, wondering if you’ll be stable or happy again.

That’s a lot of baggage to handle for even the strongest of us. Even when hard feelings linger, remember that not all of the divorce’s after-effects are negative. For many, divorce can actually be a blessing in disguise.